20 Nov There’s more to life than Going through the Motions
Your life is meant to be a dazzling expression of all that you are. There was a time when you knew this to be true. You committed to each moment with your entire being. Your heart was wide open, you believed everything was possible and the radiance of this knowledge shone in your face and sparkled in your eyes! That was before you were told to be practical, responsible, and “could you please get your head out of the clouds”. And with that, you shut down, grew up and started going through the motions of what you thought was expected of you.
Going through the Motions
Since then, you’ve been doing all the right things and taking well-charted roads. Each day you get up and conduct your life according to the conscious and subconscious guidelines laid out for you by parents, family and society. You attached to this construct and within it you’ve done well, perhaps even achieved great success. You’re a good person, responsible, reliable and reasonable.
So why, then, is there a voice deep inside you saying, “I can’t do this anymore! I feel like I’m suffocating”? To those on the outside, your life looks wonderful but inside, it feels empty, as if somehow you’re living a lie. You don’t feel a connection with the life you’ve worked so hard to create. Daily, you go through the motions but in your heart, you know there’s something fundamentally wrong. Your rational mind tells you to “snap out of it and be grateful for what you have” but your heart won’t be silenced. You feel like you’re going crazy.
Your Inner Compass
Let me say right now, you’re not going crazy. What has happened is the alarm on your inner compass has gone off and it’s telling you that you’ve gone a little off course. Now is the time to pause, take stock of things and make the necessary adjustments to get back on track with your truth. It does not mean you have to leave your family, relationship or job and get a sports car. It does, however, mean that the time has come to review the beliefs and behaviors with which you’ve been creating your life:
- Take a close look at your beliefs and behaviours. Are they yours or someone else’s?
- Are they aligned with the truth of who you really are, as they were when your face shone and your eyes sparkled?
- Are the survival mechanisms that kept you safe in childhood, now preventing you from living fully i.e. keeping yourself hidden, keeping the peace, playing it safe, doing what’s expected of you, always trying to keep those around you happy while forgetting about yourself
- Have you been making choices from a place of fear (of what your life will be like if you do or don’t do certain things ) or from a place of power?
- When you get to the end of your life will you look back and say “Wow, I lived the most wonderful and fulfilling life!”
If your goal is to live a deeply fulfilling, joyous and inspired life then there are some things that have to happen now. To begin with, you cannot accept ‘going through the motions’ as a way of life. You need to become conscious of how and why you’re living each moment. Call up those emotions of agitation and discontent that have been troubling you and become clear about what you’re feeling. To put it simply, wake up and pay attention to what your inner truth is telling you.
Once you do, you’ll probably find that some changes are required. When you find areas in your life that are not in alignment with your inner self, don’t let it slide. Get focused, peel back the layers, figure out where the disconnect is between where you are and where you want to be and then make small, sustainable changes in the direction of your goal. Remember, where you look, you will go! Not only is this easier to achieve this way, it’s also less traumatic on those around you. If, like most people, you find that you’re too close to your issues to see the forest for the trees, reach out and get help.
This may sound like a lot of work but really, it isn’t. In fact, this process is so incredibly freeing that most people wonder why they didn’t ‘wake up’ sooner. Your life is meant to be a dazzling expression of all that you are. You’re not meant to go though it half-asleep, settling for less, shutting down and numbing your pain. You’re supposed to ‘go for it’ and when you do, you’ll reconnect with the greater flow and consciousness of life of which we are all apart. This is a very powerful force.
When you begin living your truth you will be filled with a renewed life force, the likes of which you probably thought you’d never experience again. You will never be able to go back to ‘going through the motions’. You will live with a sense of joy, enthusiasm and vitality that you believed only belonged to childhood. Start by listening to that little voice inside, the one that tells you something doesn’t feel right. Don’t brush it aside. It’s your truth. It’s that shining, dazzling aspect of you waking up and wanting to live fully.
Happiness is at the polar opposite end of simply ‘going through the motions’. If you feel you need a little nudge with this, you may be interested in Dr. Robert Holden’s The Happiness Project.
Thank you for taking time to read this post! The right information at the right time is a most powerful catalyst for change. For Coaching, Workshops or an Inspiring Talk on this valuable topic, contact me!