This is a massively important Life Lesson I learned while horseback riding……. that I’ve used every day since!
Years ago I took up horseback riding. I was very much of a novice rider and on this particular day I was taking jumping lessons.
My instructor drew a line in the sand some distance in front of the first jump and said: “Make sure the horse’s front hooves touch this line! Don’t be any closer to the jump or your horse won’t have enough room to clear it and YOU WILL GRAVELY INJURE YOUR HORSE!!!”
You can’t image the fear and panic that rose in me at the thought that I might injure my horse! So, as we came around the corner of the riding ring, I locked my eyes on that line like nothing else in the world existed and I didn’t take them off it. As we neared the jump I peered over my horse’s right shoulder at the line and……. Yes!! Her hoof went right on it and not an inch further. We hit the mark!! Bravo, right?? Unfortunately, no.
What happened next was that my horse landed on that line and then didn’t take another step. I went flying off her, landed hard on the ground and got the wind knocked out of me. Well, I was irate!! As I spat sand out of my mouth and tried to catch my breath, I told the instructor that I had done every single thing she had asked and more so, I pointed out with righteous indignation, there was visual proof that my horse’s hoof touched the line.
Here’s the Life’s Lesson
That’s when she said: “Yes, Kristina, you did everything right in preparation for taking the jump. You built up all the momentum, got your horse aligned and focused on the jump but then you kept looking at the line in sand and so that’s where you ended up, on the ground.”
“What you need to do is this”, she continued: “Commit to the jump, do all the necessary preparation but then let go and throw your attention to the next jump that’s coming up, because where you look, you will go.”
Where you look, you will go!!
Despite all my best efforts, I was looking at the ground, so that’s where I went!!
What this means to you
Oftentimes, in your attempt to reach your goal, you can become so overly focused on it that all your energy gets locked up. Your Universe shrinks to only include the object of your focus. You lose Context. Creativity stops. Flow ceases. You don’t go any further and the message you’re giving the Universe is that this is your end point.
But that’s completely out of alignment with how Life works. Life is about Flow, and the ease and grace of expressing who you are while being a part of the greater whole. (BTW: This is a much more energy efficient way of living life because you don’t have to continually be generating momentum from scratch. You just have to tap into what’s already there. Remember the Turtles/East Asia Current in the movie ‘Finding Nemo’?).
So, in preparing to reach your goal:
- Be very clear about your goal
- Do all the necessary preparation. Do it well and with Integrity
- BREATHE to keep your energy flowing
- Engage with enthusiasm! Take the step! Get energy flowing!
- *** Then let go and focus on the NEXT point on the horizon you want to reach.*** This will allow you to release your attachment to the first goal as an end point, live within a greater context and as a result, keep energy flowing to reach your next goal.
- Have Faith! Clear the first goal
- Keep your eyes forward and the momentum going!
This is all about living in alignment with the Laws of the Universe. Whether it’s the beginning of a new year or the start of a new day, developing a product, an idea or a marketing campaign, finding a job or healing a relationship, remember that where you look, you will go.
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Kristina Jansz, Life Skills and Empowerment Strategies 705 794-9900 firstname.lastname@example.org